Category: Teen Topics
OK.. i once was talking to my freind Robbie, and he sed that with my BF, well now X BF Scott, that i was in not IN Love, wehn really, i did love him. i loved him more then anyone be for, i had never loved a guy be for.. so is it really right for some one to say that you wern in love if just because there experience lasted longer or was diffrent then yoursZ?
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Only you know how your feelings are, only you know how you feel or felt about an experience or person. Nobody else can truely dictate or inturprate your feelings for you because it didn't happen to them. They may be able to relate but they can only relate and give advice or their opinion. But that's why we have opinions, because their thoughts which are our own thoughts, and only ours or the individual's. Anyway, if you love someone or loved someone, you probably did. Only you can decide if that was real or not really. But, that is my opinion. Wonderful things opinions.
When your together with someone in a relationship and you guys broke up and the stories change and the other person may say that you did not feel as much as i did or that we are not in the same page. Everyone feels differently even though you tell someone you love them or that person responds to you that they love you too. It's still different for every person. By the way, love does not happen over night, but there's no guarantee that you love the other person more just because you were together with him for a long time. I think, it's not the amount of time during the relationship, but the quality time, equal effort from both of you, and trust that defines it.
You can't say that your already in love with someone just because you find them cool or attractive. There's a big difference between liking or admiring someone and loving someone.
yeah agreed, sometimes you think you love someone, but you instead really just love the idea of them, sort of like infatuation or lust..been there done that.
Well, sometimes. It really depends.
totally agree Janelle!
And, yes, only you know how you feel! just because your experiences are different from others, doesn't mean you don't love that person! And, it could also be that you just love the idea of that person!
But then no one can really decide for you when you are in love or when you aren't in love! it's all on you! There is no certain time limit of someone falling in love! You could meet a person and fall in love with them in a second, or it could take time! For everyone, it's different! Who are ppl to tell you that you're not in love!
time has nothing to do with falling in love. I can testify to that. also, no one can decide your feelings for someone else. they haven't gone through what you've experienced, therefore they don't know what happened to you.
I agree with Jannell too though. I look back at some of the girls I "liked" when I was younger. I didn't really kven know them. I just had the infatuation. There was a good checklist in a book I had once, love vs infatuation.
Well, I think people will try to tell you if you were in love or not, but nobody knows that but you. But I agree that sometimes you think you were in love, and then you look back later and go, "Oh, maybe I wasn't." But there's no reason for anyone to be condescending about it, as some adults tend to be, because if you discover your mistakes or feelings on your own, you learn from them, as opposed to having someone tell you what you did or didn't feel, because then you'll just get mad that they feel they have the right to say that, and you try to justify your experiences to defend yourself, when in reality those people might be right. But the way they approach it is usually all wrong, and puts you on the defensive.
i agree. smile.
you never know. who you will fall in love with smilely!!.... love takes time. so does growing up.... smile......